The Aftermath of a Flame War: Taken on Guilt Trip

There are many things I dislike in life, and one of the things I dislike the most, is people attempting to take me on a guilt trip, even when I have the least to feel sorry or remorseful about whatever that transpired.

What, is a guilt trip? eLook.org defines guilt trip as remorse caused by feeling responsible for some offence.

So just what the heck really happened?

Simply, an irresponsible and utterly insensitive muthafxxking sonuvabitch deliberately stomped on a group of people’s sensitivities. His act was roughly the equivalent of calling one’s religious teacher a babbler of half-truths, or shoving – without solicit – the solution in the face of someone who has worked diligently on it for a long time. He then refused to apologise to the most annoyed and vocal person of that group and even went so far actually counter-demand an apology by arguing that profanities were used on him. And as if that isn’t already bad enough, this person even proclaimed that only a ‘small minority’ were offended, as if everyone else was making a big fuss over a small matter. It is as if no apology was necessary as long as the number of people offended were too small. In fact, it sounded as if what he did was perfectly ok!

He then went on to accuse bystanders – me – of ‘adding oil to fire’ when confronted. That really took the cake! This guy has utterly no shame or any concept of right and wrong. The epitome of an ultimate asshole I have described in this blog post.

Is it a surprised that one of the aggrieved – the very same person who uttered the profanity – then took action and in a blog post to openly denounced such a person? I am in no position to say if it was right or wrong for this person to do so, but I suppose if I am eagerly anticipating something nice, and someone else ruined it, I would be upset enough to curse whoever who ruined it like a stable boy.

And then Mr Insensitive read the post – since it was publicised – and he was all fired up to retaliate. However, it didn’t happen because someone close to him attempted to stop him from escalate the matter into the equivalent of a blogosphere ‘nuclear exchange’ which almost (or had?) cost them their relationship.

But what has all these got to do with a guilt trip? In fact, was anyone taking me on a guilt trip or, well, I was the one who is actually taking someone on a guilt trip?

It annoyed me to no end because when the matter was brought up and everyone was trying to pacify the close-relation of Mr Insensitive, something was mentioned, and it sounded like I was one of the responsible party for their current predicament, and an apology is expected, along with the person who made the blog posting. It doesn’t matter that the fact is Mr Insensitive started it all and then went on to act like the total utter asshole that he is!

It is even more annoying that it is as if someone is attempting to get their equivalent of a pound of flesh by making pointed remarks whenever possible.

Go on. But don’t test my patience. I am not known to have a long fuse, and I have to say this, if your blasted relationship can’t even stand such a little tiff, I don’t know how you can consider eternity.